I'm glad New York Yankees shortstop Derek Jeter announced his retirement the same week that University of Missouri defensive end Michael Sam announced he is gay. Two announcements, similar intention: To own one's own story.
Of course, these announcements by a future Hall of Fame baseball player (The Retirement Story) and a now-famous college football player (The Coming Out Story) are not going to be seen as a bookend pair. The monolithic world of professional sports -- particularly one as militarized as the $9 billion-a-year industry as the National Football League -- must first do backflips and other contortions in order to come to grips with Sam's "Coming Out Story." By defining himself, he has forced every NFL executive, player and sports fan to accept the definition, even when many will insist they would have preferred a blank page.
A self-proclaimed gay man in the NFL is deemed far more significant and disruptive than the fact that gay men do and have played in the NFL, which only adds more potential bullshit criticism to be layered onto Sam's situation because now he'll be bashed for not just being gay, but having the temerity to make a federal case out of it. Add in the fact that he's black and I can only imagine the underbelly of Obama-haters in this country now turning the vitriol to another uppity ACHIEVER.
However, in the realm of personal narrative, the "Coming Out Story" serves generally the same purpose as "The Retirement Announcement," and yet because it is a "Coming Out Story," it is fraught with the kind of timpani-tight sexual nervousness that has always underscored the inherent tension in anyone's "Coming Out Story."
The idea here is not to look at all the fallout or reaction or "MEANING" associated with Sam's announcement that he is gay, but to place his announcement in the longstanding pantheon of Coming Out Stories within the realm of narrative.
Sam employed a well-used narrative device to bring order to his world; to create a form around which something that could be chaotic and disruptive to him is, instead, pushed out onto the larger audience as a whole, contained, readable. By creating this story, and telling it, Sam is making everyone else read his biography the way he wants it read, and, if he's lucky, understood.
Just as significant is the not just the clarity this gives to Sam himself, or the "truth" Sam delivered to the dominant heterosexual world, but the connection, acknowledgement and validation Sam has given to the gay "community." While that community is hardly any more "homogeneous" as the straight community, it is -- as a minority population -- still eagerly seeking to not only count its members, but to have them stand up. To have NFL execs, or former head coaches, or anyone, dismiss this motive is to fail to appreciate the "other" and "outside" status most of us would like to erase.
In the past, coming out stories became the currency of gay people talking to other gay people about that painful -- and often very quick and poorly executed announcements made to family and friends. Still, as a narrative form, coming out stories are part of a vast and rich area of academic and linguistic inquiry, especially since language and stories are the currency of creating identity and relating that to a wider audience.
As narrative researchers like Michael Bamberg and Allyssa McCabe wrote in their book "Narrative Identity," Sam's decision to "own his truth" is no different in practice than Jeter's decision to own his truth via the long Facebook page post Jeter penned today in order to say 2014 will be his final year.
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Jeter's announcement's most effective touch was that he set forth the parameters of the kind of discussion the baseball world will have about his anticipated departure from baseball. He created the framework instead of allowing the chaos of spring training, a new season, his ankle injury and his age (39) to unleash the inevitable maelstrom of questions and speculation.
Ditto Sam. And then some.
The college star took notice of the way NFL scouts had been asking around if he had a girlfriend and decided that he did not care to sit through the bullshit charade of silence, let alone attempt what other pro athletes have tried to do by pretending to have straight relationships. Like Jeter wanting to get ahead of the ceaseless questions and speculation, Sam took possession of the story.
If this is earth-shattering news that a gay man is going to play professional sports, it's only because it's about 10 years overdue, at least. Or at least it feels that way to anyone out there who has already told their coming out story. It's the narrative piece that places the teller at the thrilling, frightening intersection between what is, or what had been, chaos and what is clear.
Jeter may be getting some extra love today from the retirees who gather at McDonald's for morning coffee, but his future status as a non-baseball player wasn't a signal that he might one day be joining them. As for Mike Sam: Something tells me that no matter when he's drafted by an NFL team, or if he doesn't get drafted, he's just insured himself a big group of fans and supporters among the millions of others whose own coming out stories helped make his so welcome and familiar.
I used to write politics, news and sports for newspapers in cities like Albany NY, Seattle, Baltimore and Harrisburg PA. Now I take a lot of Instagram photos, check Facebook, swim, read about T$$$p and cook dinner for people I really like. New York native, living in Port Washington and Greenfield Center (that's near Saratoga Springs FYI).